❝Never judge a person by the things their past lovers tell you about them. Their judgement is clouded. To succeed in a relationship, always get to know that person. When it comes to past loves, you're only getting one side of the story. It's more than likely a biased side. No one wants to claim their faults and flaws, everyone wants to play victim. They will suck you dry of pity and not blink a second of regret. Don't judge, be curious.❞
I'm not your average girl. I'm not going to get all cliche and whine about how "I'm not like every other girl" wahh wahh wahh. I'm so much like every other girl in some many ways, and in that amount of ways I am different. Yes, I get jealous and yes, I get crazy. Girls are bred to be crazy. It's all mental warfare and no one is safe when your in the wake of that battle. Unlike most girls I don't care much about looks. To be honest, my dream man is chubby with a nice beard and full of words that will make me laugh and someone who will want to spend all day Saturday with me, not just Friday night.
For those of you who know me, I have an awful habit of dating people who don't make me a better person, but the guys who know how to bring me down. I'm not saying I was ever the "perfect" girlfriend, I'm just a girl, I make my fair share of mistakes. My past lovers find it so entertaining to tell everyone they can of how awful of a girl I am. The flaws they once told me were beautiful are now the flaws that are held against me. The secrets of my past are now being whispered around town. I've learned so much from these certain men. I refuse to let them get the best of me. The difference between me and them is that I continue to fall asleep with a smile on my face, and they continue to struggle with even a simple body function such as that.
They can dish it out, but they sure as hell can't take it. People who actually agree with others who speak bad about a person they've never met is as awful as the one spilling out the rumors. You need to get to know someone before you judge them. People who judge others do it to make themselves feel better and it comes from the fear of becoming irrelevant. The people talking the most harmful things are the people who have the most secrets.
Do the world a favor and never trust the words of someone who talks bad about an ex relationship or ex affair. They are revealing the most horrible things they can come up with and they are keeping out the amazing shine that reflects off that person. Just think about it, would you want people judging you based on what your past lover has to say about you? No. There are harsh feelings and they don't look at you like just another person, they look at you like the one person they use to share everything with and they don't anymore. They hear your name and the pain just pumps through their veins directly towards their heart. Emotions can be a blessing and it can be an atomic bomb waiting to explode.
Be careful who you trust. Be bold, and be yourself. Don't be held back because of others. A lion doesn't lose sleep over the opinion of sheep. Keep your head up.
But if it comes down to it, just remember;
revenge is best served cold.